4 Quick Tips for Healthy Eating, From an Intuitive Eating Dietitian

If you know me by now and have read my past blogs, you would probably know that these tips are going to be nuanced, shame-free and realistic. Sometimes you just have to feed the search engines exactly what they want, you know?

tip #1:

Eat within an hour of waking up.

I know that everyone has a different relationship with breakfast and being hungry in the morning. However, I am a big cheerleader for this tip for multiple reasons.

The why:

• It wakes up your metabolism and gets your energy going for the day.

• It helps to regulate your blood sugar after coming off an all night fast.

• It can help build the consistency of eating patterns by starting off your day with a meal.

• It can help reduce overeating/binging later in the day.

Tip #2:

Eat every 3-6 hours.

This is a general guideline and of course can be effected by what you ate last, how much, if you exercised, didn’t eat enough the day before and on and on. Even with all the caveats, this is a helpful cadence when you are starting to build in an eating routine. You can start by spacing out your meals and add in snacks as needed.

The why:

• It helps to keep your blood sugar from spiking or dropping too low.

• It helps keep your body regulated in knowing that you will eat at regular intervals (and build trust).

• It help keeps you hunger from becoming too intense, which could lead to becoming hangry, irritable, etc.

• It helps you with making the choices you want to make, whether that be meal planning or having a balanced meal rather than grabbing whatever is in sight.

tip #3:

Add, don’t subtract foods.

This is my favorite tip to give because it really supports the idea that there are no “good” or “bad” foods and you can still align with your health goals at the same time. For example, if you are wanting to eat more veggies, then add in veggies into your meal instead of replacing them with something else or thinking “I really should eat this veggie instead of xyz.” I have found with my clients but having the addition approach they still meet their health goals and overtime the foods balance themselves out without having to feel restricted.

The why:

• It decreases the feeling of restriction and helps with habituation/abundance mindset around foods.

• It supports the premise that there are no “good” or '“bad” foods (so important I said it twice).

• It helps thinking about food creatively rather than from a place of restriction.

TIP #4:

Slow down when eating.

I am reclaiming this tip from diet culture! This isn’t about chewing your food x number of times (ew), taking tiny bites or making sure that you take an hour to eat. This is to address something that I see so commonly in my work with people - they report eating meals really quickly (I’m talking minutes), sometimes standing up in the kitchen , etc. I feel this is a sign that you are eating in a stressed state, and a way that we can help our nervous system is to slow down the whole eating process. That means plating your food, sitting down at a table, and aiming for the meal taking at least 20 minutes.

You can also build to this! Start with setting a timer to see how long meals take you right now. Then from that starting point see if you can build up, adding a few minutes at a time. All the while taking deep breaths as you eat and really experiencing the food. This practice will help you notice your fullness and satisfaction cues, decrease stress and help the eating experience be more mindful and pleasant.

The why:

• It helps your body cue you that you are full and satisfied, if you quickly eat that can be extremely difficult to catch.

• It makes the eating experience more pleasant and less something that you have to “get it over with”.

• It helps you be more engaged in the eating experience and savor the foods.

• It helps you to learn more about yourself and your eating habits. Imagine trying to observe something that takes 3 minutes vs. 20 minutes.

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There we have it, my four tips! I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below, especially if you tried any of them out.

Also, if you’re feeling lost or like you don’t know where to start, I’d love to work with you on your journey towards food neutrality and improved health. I know that even quick tips like these can hold so much nuance, and sometimes you just need to talk out your personal situation with an expert!

Pros and Cons of Dieting

Defining dieting…

Ah, dieting. To clarify right off the bat that when I say dieting I mean fad diets and trends as a whole.

First I want to say that in the non-diet/anti-diet/screw-diet-culture space I know there can be just as many extremes as the weight loss/dieting side. A lot of what I have been thinking about is bringing the grey into this. That there are not opposing sides, but different approaches. Personally, recovering from my eating disorder saved my life in a multitude of ways and so I am strongly in the camp of f*ck diet culture. At the same time, I try to hold lots of space for those that aren’t as strongly in that camp. My mission is to help repair people’s relationships to their bodies and the foods they eat. I want to help people to see what is going on biologically when it comes to binging, weight gain and other situations that chronic dieting and having and eating disorder can lead you to. So I want to talk today on the pros and cons of dieting from my perspective.

(Side note: I am obviously going to be biased which I feel like was the point of what I was writing above. But in that bias, I want to be realistic and open-minded where I want to approach it from a less harsh place than the messaging can sometimes come across. Because first and foremost I want to say that I employ the non-diet approach because I am against diet culture but I am NOT against those who diet. If I was against dieters, I would be actively shutting out the very people that I want to be available to if they want to try something new.)

Pros and Cons of Dieting

Dieting Pro: You feel a sense of connectedness. This could be with fellow people that are also on the same diet, or with just people in general. Since dieting and weight loss are so common if you throw out the phrase “I’m trying to be good, I just started a diet.” you will likely be overwhelmed with camaraderie by people who are also trying to diet. Words of encouragement and empathy are common. Also the pursuit of weight loss is seen as the “healthiest” thing you can do for yourself, so if you say you are trying to lose weight, you will likely be met with praise. (I just want it noted that I do not agree that weight loss is the golden goose of health.)

Dieting Con: You think that if it doesn’t “work” for you, that you are broken. There is no proven effective method for weight loss in the long term. This is because our bodies are still primal, weight loss could mean death. Also, our bodies don’t keep up on the latest beauty standards so it is not going to be on board with altering the shape of your body in ways that are unnatural to you just because you want it to. It’s trying to protect you from dying. You are not broken, dieting is just not natural.

Dieting Pro: You pay more attention to food. As a dietitian I’m going to think this is cool. Being interested in what we are eating, what foods we are purchasing, holding companies accountable for their ingredients, preparing meals for ourselves and others can all be positive things.

Dieting Con: To follow up to the point above, the problem is it can go too far very quickly. There is a point with food where I think too much knowledge hiders us rather than helps us. I see it all the time where people cross the line into being so stressed about eating the “right” thing that I have to stop them and say “when did stressing about food become okay when we know that stress in general does not do ourselves any good?” Marketing is always going to want to give you a solution to a problem. In my opinion, diet culture created the problem where they made us think we don’t know what to eat. So then they can come in with names like “perfect bar”, “smart pop”, “enlightened ice cream” and create commercials where perfect looking individuals are eating their products and you think “oh, if I eat that, I will be perfect too!”

Dieting Pro: Sometimes the starting intentions are good. You want to be healthier. You want to be able to run around with your dog. You want to set a good example for your kids of a balanced diet. You want to do right by yourself and your body.

Dieting Con: Dieting further disconnects us from listening to our body’s internal cues and needs rather than brings us closer. Even the diets that try to use their marketing to say otherwise (cough Whole30 cough), I often see having the opposite effect because at the end of the day, if you are restricting, it will lead to adverse effects. Sometimes the health goals that we start off with become less and less about true health and what that means to us as individuals.

Dieting Pro: The answer is simple, and it is weight loss. Go to the doctor for knee pain - weight loss. Tired? Weight loss. Sad? Weight loss. Lonely? Weight loss. Poor body image? Weight loss. Inflammation? Weight loss. Asthma? Weight loss. The answer is simple so it feels like you *know* exactly what you need to do to have your wildest dreams come true. In a life full of uncertainty, this level of “knowing” is very intoxicating.

Dieting Con: Again, to address the pro above - unfortunately this idea that weight loss can be the answer to everything is too, a lie. Happiness, health, overall well-being, positive body image, confidence - these are actually all very complicated that will not be something you will ever “arrive” at. They will be daily practices that will not have simple solutions. I want to recognize that thin-privilege is very real and I am not trying to say that it isn’t. But the answer is so much more complicated than ‘anyone that does not have that privilege should lose weight and all will be okay’. Think of all the other ways that one might have privilege and think what the “simple” solutions others would have to do in order to have those privileges. That’s the point, that’s why is is called a privilege. Thin-privilege should be thought of in the same way because we have a generic blue print of what size our body is going to naturally be. Sure we can go to extremeness to alter it, but if weight loss is one of those extremes, it might not actually be possible because of the ways our bodies are designed. So holding space to accept all body shapes and sizes allows people to exist just as they are, without having to kill themselves over pursuing weight loss.

Katy Gaston Nutrition

Katy is a registered dietitian nutritionist and owner of Katy Gaston Nutrition based in San Francisco, CA. Katy is passionate about her work in eating disorders and disordered eating (AKA dieting) and wants to help people heal their relationship with food and body. If you would like to work with Katy in counseling sessions, she is available virtually via her services page below. If you are unable to be a client at this time but would like learn more, click here for a free introduction into intuitive eating workbook!

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Eating As Self Care

Self Care, the Latest Buzzword?

First I would like to start on what I think the definition of self care is because I think that it can get a little lost, especially now that companies have picked it up as a marketing buzz-word.

To me, self care can be anything that recharges you. Everyone is a little different so it could be exercise, sitting in the park, painting, getting you hair done, swimming in the ocean, gardening, playing with your dog, building something, etc. I think there is also an element of rebellion that can come with self care. In this western society there is a culture of hustle, individuality and perfectionism. To which rest, vulnerability and being a human can be rebellious acts. This is where I think eating can come in as a rebellious act of self care.

So how does eating play into this?

When we think about it, eating should be the most instinctual thing we do. Along with sleeping, drinking fluids and practicing safety measures (ie. not getting hit by a car or eating poisonous mushrooms) it is the thing we do every day to keep ourselves alive. So why is it so confusing and sometimes so hard to do?

Because we humans are complex creatures with emotions, memories, social influences and preferences. We have seemingly endless access to overwhelming amounts of information and opinions. Along with all this information, there is $$$ to be had. Each time that a company, magazine article, program, etc can plant a seed of doubt that you don’t know how to feed yourself, they can come in with The Answer. I also want to pause for a second and point out that this is coming from a dietitian, a profession where I literally learned all about how to nourish a human body. If eating is so instinctual, why should you need me, a dietitian, to tell you what to eat?

First I would like to say that this is a major misconception about what I do. I actually don’t want to tell you what to eat. I am more interested in helping you facilitate a relationship with your body so that you can listen to those instincts. Where I do use my degree is when I’m working with people with disease states like allergies, kidney failure, diabetes, etc because there are important food and nutritional components to that. When I think about my work with eating disorders and disordered eating I think of it as a way to help people weed through the noise of nutritional marketing and fear mongering and provide the actual science. So much more of it though is giving permission. Permission to eat when you are hungry. Permission to have your favorite foods. Permission to gain weight. Permission to listen to your body.

If we think about the typical meals, we usually feed ourselves 3 times a day, maybe with some snacks in between. When did this concept become so radical and so out of the norm? To me, it is when weight loss became the gold star indicator of health (which it’s not) and the fear mongering that is the “o*esity epidemic” that was deemed to be running rampant throughout the US (which was wildly misrepresented). Starving ourselves, “hacking” our internal body cues, cutting out entire food groups like carbohydrates or fats, taking laxatives, throwing up after meals, drinking water instead of eating lunch, exercising three hours a day (when we aren’t professional athletes); when did this all become the norm?

I will have to admit, sometimes I get self-conscious about giving up on diet culture. Usually I can ward off remarks about what I am eating or my body with comments like “I am a dietitian that works with eating disorders so actually I don’t really follow the diet trends” or “I don’t know if I’ve lost weight, I don’t track that.” People will comment on if I am eating a salad “Oh you’re so good!” or if I am eating chocolate “Wow, the dietitian eating candy, didn’t think I would see that!” I have to admit sometimes it gets tiring. It feels like I am swimming upstream all the time because not engaging in diet culture is going against established norms. But then I remember that every time I eat when I am hungry, I am standing my ground. Every time I eat a donut or a salad because my body is telling me that is what I need, I am engaging in self-care. Every time I go for the full fat yogurt or the vegan ranch dip because that is what I want vs what I think I should have, it is self care.

Feed yourselves, I give you permission.

I won’t even say that you deserve to eat, because that shouldn’t even be in the conversation. You ALWAYS deserve to eat, no matter the circumstances. Eating is as fundamental as breathing. If we were on “oxygen deprivation cleanse” or working towards taking less breaths in a day, people would look at us like we were in a cult. Eating is no different. Eating when I am hungry, trying out a new baked good recipe, discovering a new favorite restaurant are amongst the things that bring me joy. These are my self care.

Though sometimes it is hard, I will continue to stand my ground that I will always and forever, deserve to eat - and you do too.

Katy Gaston Nutrition

Katy is a registered dietitian nutritionist and owner of Katy Gaston Nutrition based in San Francisco, CA.  Katy is passionate about her work in eating disorders and disordered eating (AKA dieting) and wants to help people heal their relationship with food and body.  If you would like to work with Katy in counseling sessions, she is available virtually via her services page below.  If you are unable to be a client at this time but would like learn more, click here for a free introduction into intuitive eating workbook!

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How To Be Healthy, From a Dietitian Nutritionist

“Help me be healthy!”

Whether from clients, co-workers or any stranger that hears what I do for a living, this is one of the most common requests I get after “how can I lose weight?”

This question is always interesting to be because it is so complex, yet we throw around the word “healthy” like we are all supposed to know what it means. So what does it mean?

The definition of health used to be simply the “absence of illness” but now has rightly been corrected to mean so much more. Health involves so many things including your social and physical environment, your access to food and healthcare, the oppressions you face. It is a mental, physical and emotional embodiment. Health is both individual and involves the environment around you.

So why do people constantly ask dietitian nutritionists to make them healthy?

With so much media messaging and marketing around food, bodies and health it makes sense to me why this is everyone’s goal. However, this can be a very dangerous way to try and create a positive outcome for yourself because it often involves a perfectionistic idea of what health means. Because like perfection, if we think of health as a goal to seek, we will never get there. We will never be perfectly healthy. NEVER. Because we are human. Perfection is not in our nature or DNA, sorry not sorry. So why do I say it’s dangerous? This idea of perfect health can lead us to disordered patterns with food and our body because perfection cannot be obtained yet we shame, chastise and berate ourselves when it isn’t.

I believe that our western society definition of what is healthy is warped. We think low weight, clean eating and constantly going to the gym is our ticket. Where is reality, our bodies can determine what the best weight for us is. Eating routinely and happily might be our key. Enjoying the movement that feels best and right for our bodies is where we shine. We understand that chronic stress wears down our bodies, but what about the chronic stress of trying to control our weight, eat the exact right thing and workout even when our bodies are begging us to stop?

Where is health that includes the pleasure and joy we can get from food. The hug from a loved one. The walk through the park to hear the birds sing. The security of knowing where your next meal is. The nurse listening to your when you say you don’t want to know what your weight is. Taking time from work when need rest.

Health is complex.

I understand why we want to pursue it and I also know that not everyone has the same privileges. When we have this narrow view (AKA perfection) of what health can be we cause harm to ourselves and others. We judge ourselves and others for their choices where they might not be choices at all. It becomes right and wrong instead of nuances and individual.

There are no set parameters, no target to reach or gold medal to obtain. You can expand what your definition of health is for you.

Katy Gaston Nutrition

Katy is a registered dietitian nutritionist and owner of Katy Gaston Nutrition based in San Francisco, CA.  Katy is passionate about her work in eating disorders and disordered eating (AKA dieting) and wants to help people heal their relationship with food and body.  If you would like to work with Katy in counseling sessions, she is available virtually via her services page below.  If you are unable to be a client at this time but would like learn more, click here for a free introduction into intuitive eating workbook!

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How To Respond To Diet Talk

We are still very much in the midst of a global pandemic…

As we go into a time where we are seeing more of our friends and family there can be a lot of diet talk. If you are trying to recover from an eating disorder or seeking the path of a non-diet life, how do you navigate these comments and questions?

First I just want to say that it is a weird time right now in general. Here in the US and especially in California, life is starting to “open up” again. We are starting to come out of our houses, go back to the office, see groups of friends and family, and go to events. This can be nerve-wracking and an adjustment just like when we were going into lockdown (and all the changes that happened inside of that.) As part of this adjustment, we might be seeing people in person that we haven’t in a long time and we might be more self-conscious because we have gotten used to being on video from the comfort of our homes.

How do I respond to diet talk?

Since we all have varying comfort levels depending on our mood, personality and context I have included categories of “soft” and “bold” responses, but one is not better than the other. You need to protect your energy first and foremost.

Comment: Wow, you look great! Did you lose weight??

Soft: Thanks, I’m not sure, I don’t track that.

Bold: I’m actually healing my relationship with food and my body that doesn’t include monitoring my weight so maybe that is what you are noticing!

Wow, you are eating so healthy, good for you.

Soft: I try to eat a little bit of everything!

Bold: Actually when I changed my mindset in knowing no good or bad foods it opened me up to so much variety! I’m craving a salad right now and definitely going for dessert later because it looks delicious.

Do you work out? If I ate like you I would gain so much weight.

Soft: Mmm. [changes subject] So how has the new dog been?

Bold: I’ve healed my relationship with my body and food so I enjoy joyful movement when I want. I’m not afraid of weight gain because I trust my body will figure out what weight it needs to be. I also know fear of weight gain is ingrained in us but I’ve been working on un-learning fat-phobia instead.

My friend just lost a bunch of weight on this new diet! Let me send you the book title, I think it could be good for you.

Soft: I’ve actually stopped dieting for a bit, thanks though.

Bold: I know that I tried a bunch of diets in the past that didn’t work but it turns out I actually needed to heal my eating disorder instead!

Someone looks hungry, what a big plate!

Soft: Yep.

Bold: Funny, I didn’t feel the need to comment on your plate of food.

Come-on, finish off the mashed potatoes! I don’t want them to go to waste.

Soft: Thank you but like I said I’m really full.

Bold: Definitely won’t go to waste, I’ll take them home with me because I am too full right now.

Ugh my thighs are so big, diet starts on Monday for sure.

Soft: I had parts of myself that I haven’t liked either but I’m choosing to send them some love instead!

Bold: We are some smart, passionate and funny ladies, isn’t there something else we could talk about besides what we hate about our bodies and dieting?

Navigating diet talk might seem like a never-ending battle. But like I said always put your energy first and see what you have the energy for. You are also not alone <3.

Katy Gaston Nutrition

Katy is a registered dietitian nutritionist and owner of Katy Gaston Nutrition based in San Francisco, CA.  Katy is passionate about her work in eating disorders and disordered eating (AKA dieting) and wants to help people heal their relationship with food and body.  If you would like to work with Katy in counseling sessions, she is available virtually via her services page below.  If you are unable to be a client at this time but would like learn more, click here for a free introduction into intuitive eating workbook!

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